No wonder some women are unconsciously passive aggressive when expressing anger, sadness, or frustration. For years, they have been subjected to so much gaslighting that they can no longer express themselves in a way that feels authentic to them.
They say, “I’m sorry” before giving their opinion. In an email or text message, they place a smiley face next to a serious question or concern, thereby reducing the impact of having to express their true feelings.
You know how it looks: “You’re late :D ”
These are the same women who stay in relationships they don’t belong in, who don’t follow their dreams, who withdraw from the kind of life they want to live.” —
I hate when people claim that women are crazy or complicated or don’t know what they want because fuck you. When a woman is vocal about her opinions, desires, feelings, you call her a bitch or crazy or hysterical. Women have been taught that the only way to communicate while maintaining their physical and emotional safety is to be indirect.
i feel like i have to filter my feelings somehow at all times. i made someone cry a few weeks ago at school. i didn’t even insult him. i was expressing a critique about his art. at art school. when the guys do it, they’re informed and ‘probably right.’ when the women do it, we’re crazy overachievers. i find myself having to say, ‘i mean, maybe it’s just me, but…’ or ‘well, this is just my opinion…’ all the time. why am i afraid to say what i really think when no one else seems to be?
There are so many times that I have to be very careful about how I say things, because I’m instantly labeled as a ‘bitch’. I’m really effin’ tired of it.
this is why i am proudly blatant and honest and unapologetic for expressing my opinion in a (usually) calm or logical way. if that makes me a bitch, so what.
It really depends on the person I’m with if I do this. With a couple of my professors I will just state my damn opinion. With some I will do the “well in my opinion…” Same depends on the people I am talking to. I am more likely to say “In my opinion” or “this is just my opinion” if I am talking to men.
I mean I guess I could be more hungry but I wasn’t planning on being up this late and I should really just get it together and start writing papers on time instead of waiting till the last minute. That would be cool.
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